the moment with mom

The first real clear memory I have of my mother was when I was four. I was looking at the television and saw horses and soldiers coming at me very slowly. I looked at Mom and she was laying prone on the couch with her face buried in her right hand. She was crying and I was confused. Was I making her cry? I looked back at the television and realized what was on TV was making her cry. I went over and hugged her leg. She put her arm around me. The event on television was Jack Kennedy’s funeral procession.

Jane Chandler, my mother, and myself

Mom told me recently that I watched all of television coverage on President Kennedy’s death. I can’t recall watching the other television news items, just that moment with Mom.

One moment is all it takes to make a memory. In Mom's sorrow that day, I realized an understanding. An understanding of feelings, without and within. This came to be monumental. Perhaps difficult to describe, but nonetheless all around me.

I was only four but I had realized that the world had many places and that they aren't as foreign as in the past.

The moment with Mom was poignant. The total spectrum of that event didn't come totally into view then, but as I grew older my vision became more clear.

your biggest fan

Do you have a biggest fan? How we see ourselves is how others will see us. With this in mind, let's proceed to the next level.

Do you have enemies? Think this. Maybe there is no such thing as enemies.  No one's vying for our demise, so much as their own ascension. Maybe having opposition is our desperate explanation for why we face conflict we don't understand. Maybe our self-consciousness is behind why we feel judged by others.

Maybe becoming our own biggest fan will destroy whatever we perceived was against us.

Maybe becoming our biggest fan is the answer. Have confidence and conviction. This will attract a support system. There are no fair-weather fans by becoming your biggest fan. We must first support ourselves. We are our own complete and total support system

This notion leads to a better feeling within ourselves. We will have no enemies. We will have no opposition. We will have no conflict.

This attitude comes with practice. Be grateful for what you have and for what you are about to receive. Keep your thoughts positive. Go for the big picture. Make yourself part of the big picture. The sum is greater than all of its parts. A part is greater than the whole. We are that part.